Fairfax Family Law Blog

Many couples in Virginia think of their pets as part of their family. Often, if the couple chooses to divorce, the question of what happens to the pet is a complicated one, with both people wanting to keep the pet in their lives. Because many states treat pets as property, a custody or visitation arrangement will not be ordered by the court. Fortunately, couples with pets who are considering marriage do have family law options available to them.

For example, some couples are detailing what will happen to their pets in a prenuptial agreement. One attorney claims to have seen a significant increase in the number of couples using such a tool to prevent a tug-of-war over their pets. The subject of a vast majority of these agreements -- approximately 88% -- include dogs.

It goes without saying that couples never get married with the intention of someday separating. However, according to statistics, nearly half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce.  Divorce is notoriously a very emotional, painful and complicated thing to experience. Here are a few tips to help Virginia residents get through one amicably.

When marriages end, it's relatively common for all parties involved to feel negative emotions like resentment and bitterness. Although easier said than done, it is important to never let negative emotions influence decisions. It may be difficult to find things to agree on, but that is exactly what separating couples should do. Sharing a common goal is a proven way to move the divorce process along in an amicable manner.

Parents in Virginia and across the country typically consider their children their first priority; their children's welfare is one of the most important factors when it comes to making certain decisions. For some people, this could prompt them to stay in an unhappy relationship because of their concern over the impact that it will have on the children. Fortunately, there are steps that parents can take to help their children thrive in the aftermath of a divorce.

For example, one author who writes on family-related issues studied how children of divorce coped. Her research reportedly shows that children who spend approximately equal time with both parents in the aftermath of a divorce report better psychological health and greater self-esteem as adults. Additionally, there are other steps that can help ease children through the transition.

Many issues can have an impact on your children as you navigate the family justice system in divorce. When you filed a petition in a Virginia court, your highest priority was likely to try to move on in life in such a way that your kids would be able to adapt to a new lifestyle with as little stress as possible. Finances is often a big concern for parents who decide to sever marital ties.

Especially if you'll be the custodial parent, you need to be able to provide for your children's needs. The court may order your ex to pay child support. Property division proceedings will also have a significant impact on your post-divorce financial status, which is why it's important to investigate further if you suspect that your spouse is trying to hide assets to keep you from getting money or property to which you may be entitled.