Birdnesting, also known as nesting, is a special custody setup where the kids remain in the family home and the parents take turns living there. This arrangement aims to minimize the disruption in children’s lives during divorce.
While nesting can be beneficial, it requires careful planning and cooperation between parents.
Creating a detailed agreement
A well-crafted birdnesting agreement often addresses the following essential aspects:
- Parenting schedule: What will the schedule be for each parent’s time with the children, including days, nights and weekends?
- Living arrangements: Where does the “off-duty” parent stay? How often do you swap?
- Childcare responsibilities: What is each parent’s duties during their time with the children? Who is in charge of day-to-day care, school stuff and after-school activities?
- Financial responsibilities: How would you split children-related expenses? Who will pay the mortgage or rent, utilities and maintenance?
- Communication: How will you and your ex-spouse communicate regularly about the children and household matters?
- Conflict resolution: What is the plan for handling possible disagreements?
- Exit strategy: How will you transition out of birdnesting when the time comes?
Family law courts generally support any custody arrangement that serves the best interests of the child. This can include nesting, provided both parents agree and can work together cooperatively.
Potential positive solution for families in transition
No family is alike, and what works for one may not work for another. It is essential to consider your family’s specific needs and circumstances when creating your agreement, ideally with the help of a skilled divorce attorney. With careful planning and mutual respect, birdnesting can be a positive step forward in your co-parenting journey.
